I read a disturbing commentary today on something called “purity balls”. In essence, it’s a prom for virginity. Father and daughter attend and make great little god filled pledges to each other. In the daughters case - she pledges to remain a virgin until marriage, and her father in turn pledges to “protect” her virginity and purity. WTF, the sheer amount of things wrong with this are astounding.
Let’s get two virgins together, marry them off and have them start reproducing more little christians shall we? After all, that’s what sex is for, reproduction, right? Little piece of advice from a womans perspective- the first time, and several times after that first time suck. You don’t know what you’re doing, or what you really want to be done to you, and if your partner is new to the game too, he has no clue where to even begin with you. He’s also probably watched a lot of porn and the things he will try to immitate aren’t gonna feel so hot either. Again he has no clue what he’s really doing and your first time out is no time to be trying to screw like a porn star.
Sexuality is not an evil here, how about a ball to keep your kids from becoming pothead burnouts, or raging alcoholics? How about a tolerance ball where you pledge to accept people for who they are and not be trying to convert/change/judge them because your beliefs aren’t the same? Go ahead with your purity ball, teach them that sex is evil if it’s out of wedlock, that it’s wrong to learn about their bodies, to figure out who they can and can’t be sexually compatible with (personally I think that’s a pretty big relationship definer).
PS- where are the purity balls for the little christian boys out there?
brilliant post. this is another disappointing thing to see happening. you know this pledge won’t mean that much after they’re in college for a couple of years and have learned a bit more. it’s almost a cult-like indoctrination - get ‘em when they’re young and they don’t know enough about life to know what a bad idea this is. who is actually doing this? who is naive enough to believe that during a session of heavy petting in their twenties they’ll think back to a sweet little dance they had with their father several years prior? i have a feeling that isn’t going to come up - ’cause your dad isn’t gonna be much on your mind at that point.
it’s more likely an effort by the religious right to address teenage pregnancy - and since they can’t officially say “go have safe sex” because they promote abstinence, they have to say “don’t have sex until you’re married”. sure. that’s fine. but for chrissakes teach ‘em about birth control. sex is not evil. you might wanna teach ‘em that too.
and where ARE the Winner Balls (pledge not to be a loser), the Individuality Balls (pledge not to conform for the sake of conformity), the Vows Actually Mean Something Balls (pledge to actually keep your pledges), etc?
May 16, 2006 @ 9:46 am